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Originally Posted by ECHOES
It can be a defense, a way of making something uncomfortable..comfortable, or way of making ourselves 'look good' when we think we don't, or making the frightening..safer, or an opposite--a cover-up for anger because of a fear of feeling or expressing anger. 
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((((((((Echoes))))))) This makes so much more sense when you put it this way. I'm so guilty of that, that's why T calls me "challenging". I deflect, avoid, etc...He also told me that being supernice, agreeable and always smiling works for me at work, with friends, when I volunteer, but that in session he wants to see the real me. T says that if I'm upset, I should show him that.
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The patient's job is to repeat in the therapy all the stuff that has been disastrous before. The T's job is to not let it happen, but to point out how it is happening.
