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Originally Posted by Suzy5654
Well, my good friend met her husband of 3 years now (2nd husband after a divorce & she was 40 with 3 kids) on e-harmony & they are doing great & they DID do a commercial with them...
But another friend who had been divorced twice met a bunch of guys (she was in her 30's w/3 kids & had been in 2 abusive marriages--don't know if that means anything) & dated them & got involved (& I mean sexually--which surprised me that she would jump into that so soon--like 6 weeks after meeting the guys with 3 kids & the dads are not involved at all so she is totally responsible; but I am a totally old lady by this time!! Married 34 yrs. & 54 yrs. old & married to my high school sweet heart...I know...start playing the violins or something...we've got our stuff, believe me!!)--ANYWAY--she met them on match.com. She hung onto one guy for about 1 1/2 yrs. & it was a tumultuous relationship; she would break it off & then go back, etc. Showing up for work crying--bad stuff.
Finally, she broke it off for good. Cried for a week & then signed up on a dating site like "morefishesinthesea" or something like that. And within a week she is dating 6 guys--glowing--lost 20 lbs.--OK I'm jealous & want to borrow the guy just for that--but then she narrows it down & after about 8 weeks she is ENGAGED & is getting married in April.
She has not totally explained what he does for a living--which was a problem with the last husband. In like he doesn't hold a job.
I can't say anything. It's "true love." They go to church...
They probably lead a more sedate lifestyle than we do (except for the SEX!!)--no drinking, no going out to dinner--staying home for family dinners--I don't know--folding laundry together.
Worried for her, though.
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It's called Plentyoffish.com
I found that those sites are not a healthy way to meet someone. The majority don't get back to you. Or judge you on your appearance. You may be thinking oh, ugly. I am talking about try being thought of as soo attractive that everyone is afraid to approach you, and they think you're a total biatch. Ok not fun. If you list too much for interests and life goals, ppl are intimidated. If you don't list enough they think you are just out to get their money (thankfully their own insecurities) or you haven't any goals of your own.
Even the ones who say they're looking for "long term" never are. They all drink, and they all seem to smoke pot. The 3 or 4 that I'd found over a 2 year period when I was really ill that seemed legit never stayed on line for very long maybe a couple weeks, I always noticed those were ones that didn't party,drink,smoke, ect..
I tried EHarmony once as well too, I was rejected, as it said there were no matches for me at that time.
I also tried lavalife for a little while before they started charging women. The men on there seemed to be a little more mature. I tried Nexopia. Mostly kids, very immature and alot of naughty comments/messages to be made.
The phone lines that I went onto when I was really sick, the men on there all wanted free sex. The majority of the men on POF (plentyoffish) were the same ones that were on the phone lines.
I guess a person could say that there are just as many weirdo's in public, but I find that the ppl on dating sites have many issues that they are not aware of/or are, and just want the easy way of finding a relationship (SEX) (although they will tell you it is not) if they were out and about doing what they enjoyed than that would be the best way of meeting someone. Because passing emails and instant msging back and forth to someone that you just don't know.Isn't healthy. You don't know how they interact with others. With their friends. If they have friends. To enter into a healthy relationship with a healthy fighting chance, ppl on both ends need to be healthy.
It does take time to get to know someone. Statistics say it takes an approximation of two years to really know someone in person.