Thanks for the replies... We have talked to her T about this issue a few years back and the T tried to help us find out if it was "she" or "her - host body" that wanted another man... but we were never able to come to a conclusion as to who, or both (and) we tried to figure out what part Her (host body) had to play in all this if any thing as there was pain and loneliness in her life to at that moment in time.

IMO - harmless flirting is fine, but chatting with possible thoughts of meeting is bad, as meeting could lead to other things - sexual things.