i totally understand. my ex wanted me to give him head while he watched porn and i refused. he said "but ill be thinking about you. its just for extra stimulation" and i said that it made me feel like i wasn't enough for him.

i dont think you should do anything you're uncomfortable with, first off. second, if youre not into it, then youre not into it. you cant force yourself to like something you don't like y'know? i think, when it comes to porn and one person having a problem with the kind or the frequency, it seems like its best to keep it a dont ask dont tell policy. that is, of course, unless it leads to other issues. but my thing is, i dont ask about it and he doesnt tell me about it. bc as long as our relationship is healthy i dont really care too much and don't really want to know. my only stipulation was that i didnt want him watching the hardcore stuff like depicting rape scenes etc... which he said disgusts him anyways. i dont know you or your boyfriend so i dont know if that would be the best course of action for you, but that seems to work for me and my boyfriend.