I'm going to quote a sentence you wrote upstream:

"Yet, I'm 28 and still live in an apartment with a roommate, haven't dated anyone in 4.5 years, and my life seems to be heading nowhere."

In that one sentence I see several goals and dreams and desires:
1) I want to: own my own home or make enough money to be able to afford to live on my own (--not sure which it is, when you implied you didn't wish to still be living in an apartment with a roommate. )
2) I want to be dating someone right now, or soon!
3) I want my life to be headed somewhere

and another one, from later on:
4) I want my life to be authentic ("it has all seemed fake")

There ya go--4 great goals! It's all there, velcro. I think you know a lot about what you want. Let your T help you actualize these dreams. I think there is a lot of negativity in your last post, like you are trying to hide or disown your desire for something better, something more, something that has meaning for you. To uncover your goals from your negative statements (I don't want, I can't see, I couldn't do), try reframing those in a positive way. That can be very powerful. Try flipping your statements around. Instead of, "I don't like being fake", say, "I like being real". Instead of, "I haven't dated anyone in years", say, "I want to date someone". They mean much the same, but it is the feeling that each gives that is different. The negative statements are disempowering, the positive are empowering.

It sounds like you have a lot to work on in therapy--a good place to be.