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Originally Posted by Tishie
I really dont want to cause offence ! I lived with my mum with a lazy husband and two sons, my mum would comment to me about the things he was not doing etc and it would cause upset for me as I knew he was wrong but didnt know how to solve it as I was too busy trying to keep the peace between my mum and him rather than being left alone to sort it out in my own head what to do about it.
My advice is for you to leave things alone and let them get on with it as long as he is not affecting you directly (and not coming to the table does not count as you can ignore it) then leave well alone.
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I'm sorry
, I thought you were talking to me as I was the one that told her to intervene.
At that, and I am sorry, but I totally disagree with what you said. Things don't get better by leaving them alone, as my wife and I can attest to, we and to find out the hard way. If no one knows what's wrong, it can't be fixed.
In any relationship communication has to be there, or everything could fall apart; and in my case it almost did. I was addicted to these games and it was contributory to the over all problem, so, yeah, I know what I am talking about. And to say it isn't affecting her directly, he's in her house, making her miserable, I'd say that's affecting her directly, and he needs to be dealt with. Of course, this is all IMHO, but living it and seeing what it can do...just scary.