I'm so sorry you have to go through this I'm not an expert of things, but i think it would be a lot easier for you to deal with stuff if you had some help, like a pdoc, a T or a councelor. Is there any way you could get help without your parents involvement? Have you tried calling some of the helplines, they might have some good ideas as to where to get help. In the country where i live they really can help with finding a T.