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Originally Posted by AAAAA
You're right ihateit, things don't get better by leaving them alone. But the difference is YOU and YOUR wife needed to fix things in your relationship. dsh74 has legitimate complaints, but her choices are rather limited. Either she can put her foot down, put up with it, or kick them out.
The problems between daughter and son-in-law can only be addressed by those two people. It's frustrating to see your child in a relationship with obvious problems, but the fact remains that when a third party becomes involved they become at best a crutch and at worst a part of the problem.
It's not only battles that you choose to fight, but whether you're entitled to be in the battle to begin with.
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Yes, my problems are mine and my wife's...and for the most part, we have fixed things. This isn't about that tho is it?
The point was I know what it can do, so I am sharing what I feel. I don't feel dsh74 need to address the problems her daughter and her husband are having, but if you read what dsh74 is saying, it's affecting dsh74, and this needs to be dealt with. He's in her house, not helping out, that affects her, no? He's on her computer, maybe she wants to be on it, that affects her no? His lack of wanting to do anything but play EQ is annoying everyone (she said this), that affects her, her husband...so yeah, I disagree again, she needs to tell him her problems with him, I agree, and never did I once say, she need to intervene with the daughter and SIL and their personal problems. Although this is prolly moot now, as it seems he's doing better.
