I dont even know where to start with my story. I have been married to my husband for 15 years and we have an 11 year old son and 9-year daughter. Last week my husband came home with a story that he had shoved someone and was charged with battery, for which he would have to pay fines. Okay i was believing this. Then around 8pm my phone rang, anonymous caller saying that she was told that she heard that i would never know if someone didnt call and tell me that my husband was arrested for touching, actually she said molesting two women today. He at first denied this, but when he saw that i would no longer believe him then he said that he did and he didnt know why he did these things. Apparently there were three women, only the 3rd could not identify him positively. There have been some things since we were first married and of course he would always lie, which he does very, very well and i believed him. Later on there were more things that happened that he was able to convince me wasnt true. He was charged with 2 counts of battery for touching these women on the butt, he plead guilty and was to spend 48 hours in jail for this, still not telling me everything, just admitted the fines, not jail or anything else. I have seen him do certain things myself and our sexual relationship has been very upsetting to me for the last several years, either rough or with pornographic tones. He lies to me very often. He has always been very controlling, what clothes i could wear, who i talked to, could not go anywhere without him or without him following me. He would come and sit at my work all day in the parking lot somedays, not doing his own job.
Okay. He went to a psychologist yesterday and was told that it sounded like he could have obsessive compulsive disorder. Does the lying so good and easily come with this disorder? Can medicine help this truly? I have separated from him and he is staying at his mother's since one week ago. I just cant comprehend how this could all happen. He is still not admitting to me or confessing really, just the things that i make him confess after i have already found out. I can never trust him again, not truly, and i dont see how i could ever be happy living with him again. I go to talk to his psychologist tomorrow and he goes to a psychiatrist on Monday. If anyone has any suggestions or advice on how i should handle these things please let me know. My whole world is shattered, jack's personality would never let you think that he would do these things, and even when caught, he would try to lie about it. I cant help but wonder how many other women and wonder what all he has done. How can i get the truth if he doesnt tell me. Will this still happen with meds? Can i deal with this even if he is on meds and all. My husband and i were always close and this is a very big shock to the whole family. I dont see how i can ever go back. Please someone help me..............