I gotta say, there are probably a hundred different reasons why a person might get angry, and talking about "age appropriate" behavior and bullying is like pulling two possible answers from a field of a hundred out of the air. I'm not sure where you got those two from and why you chose to focus on them as the beginnings of your reply to Neo.

People express their anger in many different ways. Name calling is one such way, but it is silly to suggest that we don't all "name call" from time to time in our lives. Most people do, it's just the nature of anger that that comes out as one of the core responses. Everytime we mutter under our breath at another driver on the road, or wonder at the lunacy of an elected politician or celebrity, there is usually a name associated with our thoughts.

Now, since name-calling serves a purpose in that it allows all of us to vent our angry feelings, I don't think it's all that helpful to suggest that name-calling isn't or couldn't be useful in certain situations. Granted, the situation that Neo is asking for help about isn't the most helpful response he could do, but at the same time, I'm not sure I saw your response containing any minimal amount of empathy for the situation.

It's fine to come on the forums and offer your thoughts, advice, and suggestions, but I think most people will find the advice easier to swallow if it isn't couched in such "black and white" terms. Life is rarely so direct or uncomplicated, as you well know.

Best,
DocJohn