Hi Lynn,

I am sorry to hear that you are experiencing a difficult situation. It can be very confusing when someone you love makes a decision that you don't agree with. I think Madisgram's advice is excellent. It sounds like the first step is to ask yourself what you want. Perhaps there is someone you trust in your life who has had a similar experience. Maybe you could ask her how she dealt with the situation. There are some wonderful community support services for women out there. Maybe look one up in your region, and consult with someone who has experience.

I can say as a child of divorce, that when your children grow up they will be happy if you did the right thing for you. Children do well when their parents feel good, together or not. It sounds like you are a sensitive and caring mother.

My thoughts are with you.