I'm having the same problem. My parents won't accept who I am. They've been there all my life and gave me all the things i needed. They use this against me when i don't call often enough or visit. usually I call them when something good happens to me and I let them know...but other than that I shy away from them. When I stay at the house for a week...i try to talk to my mom but she always puts me down. When i tell her about bad things that happen...or I want emotional support...she just says she doesn't want to hear it...She forces me to go to church and expects that I don't ahve sex with my bf. I'm 20 and we do. I don't go to church because right now I don't feel a connection to God. It is my goal to go back to church, but when i am ready. I've felt numb going to church with my parents. I'd rather go by myself. My mom tells me how to think, who to be...my dad doesn't say anything he just agrees with her. They don't know me...and when i try to talk about how this bothers me...they say I'm being immature and that is not the way to act....I don't know what to do...I am not going to stop being me and what makes me happy...it is a two-way street...I can't go on doing all the work by accepting them and losing my identity....my growth stunted because of this. When i moved out on my own I was no longer depressed and realised more about myself..I became a better person...I feel guilty for shunning my parents...because I do recognise what they did right...but they just don't know me...I fake who I am in order to have some kind of relationship with them