((moon))) silence is what locks the doors and holds us inside, preventing us from making the true connections to others that we are seeking.. when we can reach into the inner side of ourself and connect with the pains we are taking chances, risks that the feelings we have held so long might overcome and overwhelm us... but dont worry here... you are safe here.... you can give us small parts of your story at a time, work on one thing and then when you are settled there, move forward... it takes time and little by little we have breakthroughs... never give up on you or on the kind caring attitude of others at our great little community.. we are not all pro's but i know the care is real and we try hard to help...

first, accept that you are accepted.. accept that we will not judge or worship you... we will listen and care and when we can, we will give some ideas that may or may not help you.. your success with this depends on you.. we all have days when it seems like we are going nowhere but its not true.. the pain is not really our friend or where we want to stay, but it is what it is right now and if we are careful and loving and gentle to our own self about all this, if we can see that compassion does exist and is present in the words we read here, we can then begin to believe there is a way out of the mess and there is a time of joy for us in the future somewhere.. there will be heartache as we examine the hurts and memories but there is joy and hope and laughter in the ways we overcome and defeat the darkness.. there is joy in connecting with others also struggling and together guiding each other on our way to a more pleasant shore, somewhere in the distance now, but it is there all the same... you can arrive there too... together we can make the distance, the difference, and see the promise of life unfold for us.. in time.. it takes hard work and relentless pursuing, but know, KNOW, that it is there and it belongs to you to have, share and give to all those you know... and if they dont want it for themselves? you can tell yourself that is a truly sad thing..