Hi Ariane B. , thanks for the kind words and insight into how you felt growing up in a divorced family. Since we are being civil to each other the children don't see fighting. But you're right I do need to find my own happiness and peace which indeed will ultimately reflect on them. A happy mother makes for happy children. I know if we were to live separately we wouldn't be able to afford the lifestyle we're living now and thar would affect them. If I didn't have children it would be easier to pick up and leave. For now I'm just putting all my effort into them. My spouse sees the other woman once a week and they fight most of the time. They truly have a dysfunctional relationship especially since she settles for once a week. Thanks again.