I was in a women's therapy group, met once a month but I was about the only member who showed up every month! I kept meeting new members and getting to know/like one and then that one wouldn't show up the next month, LOL. But after about 3-4 months, a woman showed up (these women had all been in a previous group run by this therapist apparently) and she was going to singles "parties" of some sort, the in-person sort of way to meet, and every bit as bizarre/bad as online it sounded/sounds like. But they were all discussing the online meeting and tactics for in person meeting (the one woman who was the "expert" :-) would arrive late to the restaurant or wherever she was going to meet someone and check them out in secret first and just not "show up" if she didn't like their looks!) but that's basically why I quit the group (and it was a married therapist, we were meeting in her home!) they were just talking about dating and singles groups and online dating (and the therapist joined one of the sites!) and, my being married, I just didn't get it!

I imagine there might be "regular" people on there like "us" :-) but it's the same sifting through all those online people as in person I imagine. I met my husband at work and he was married, etc. at the time and I can't imagine if I'd met him online, how that would have happened. The "forced" in-person interaction helped in our case whereas if some guy I chatted with online were to say "I'm married" I would have run the other way.

I'm lazy too; no way I would have driven 8 hours for a date, Seeker :-) I had a boyfriend in the early 1970's in Washington, D.C. and he was in the Navy (we worked together at Sears Roebuck) and he finally got out and went back "home" to Sacramento and eventually I went out to visit him and that was a disaster. We did okay here in my world where I could ignore the bad signs (we'd go to my parent's house in Maryland and wash his car only he'd rewash all the parts I had washed!) but I had a week(?) of horrible times in Sacramento. When I got off the plane back in D.C. I almost kissed the ground and was very glad he lived so far away. He didn't get it though, he married, had children and kept calling me! Even after I married a couple times. I think eventually my number changed or something and I never heard from him again. But I think what we term "losers" are everywhere and could be us in different circumstances, etc. Think about our "friends" and how weird they can be personally :-)