As nice as that woman was she obviously has no idea what others have to do to create a family around themselves.

I've got my biological family--from very loving and supportive but mildly disfunctional to distant and severely disfunctional (depends on which parent's family we're talking about). Then I have my church family. No one is totally put together but still seems more even-keeled as a whole than my biological family. It's a hard thing, though, to learn to be inter-dependent without becoming dependent or co-dependent when we're feeling a bit broken inside. And I'm still learning...