I have the "keeping others safe" thing too. I have a son with autism/aspergers and when he was little, it took a GROUP of grown ups to watch him at a park - because if someone blinked, he could just disappear...wherever his little mind wanted him to go, he went. SO, I have this major hypervigilence with all of my kids now - it's hard to know at which point I'm just being "realistic" and at which point I'm going "too far". And it IS exhausting!!

As for myself and my hypervigilance....honestly, the things that have helped the most are therapy, and finally, klonopin. I love the other ideas in this thread though. maybe it should be a "sticky" at the top??