I have the same unrequitted love for someone I had an affair with, Mark. It really hurts...every time you think you're over him, there, it comes back and overwhelms you. It took me five years, yet I have found someone new, AJ. For those five years, I bonded with friends, had interesting jobs, and went on my best front, even though my insides were screaming, I can't go on..what I want to say is your pain is real, very real, and it's not without due cause, one can get attached to anyone under any circumstance..mine, after all, was an affair with a married man..I could see how you couls become attached to someone from seeing them in school, in school you share the same peers, activities, everything..ok here's what's coming to me to say..go out and get involved in everything you can, church, counseling, friends, jobs, I met my man just by having connections here and there..you are in my heart..I am praying for you..