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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions
My daughter cries about her pop-pop often....as do I....I still haven't handled the grief yet. We try to talk about my dad, but it's so hard. My daughter - now almost 8 - says that she doesn't like hearing the word pop-pop and that she doesn't like talking to me about him because I always cry.....Of course, as she's telling me this, I was crying.
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((( mixedup_emotions )))
I'm so sorry you lost your dad and have "those" kinds of memories. My husband went through something similar with his father. (His father died of a heart attack while driving. My husband was in the passenger seat.)
The above paragraph about you daughter tugged at my heartstrings. My dad died a month after I turned 10 so I can relate to her grief. I actually stopped talking about my father for the very same reason. Every time I brought him up, my mother would get upset. She didn't always cry but I could tell it was a very uncomfortable subject for her so I shut up.
Has your daughter grieved at all? I learned not to cry in front of my mother because it was too sad for her, so I cried into my pillow every night. I did not know what to do with the pain so after two years of crying I stuffed every memory I had of him way down to the bottom of my feet. I still can't remember him. Death can really mess up kid's heads.
I hope you are able to find some comfort soon. I'm glad you took the time to write out your story. Keep telling it, no matter how many times. It will help you heal.
