I agree with madisgram statement that "i don't believe this man plans on changing his ways". Also the fact the he was looking at Shemales or what ever you said. He may need to address his own sexual identity problems. You may not be able to meet his sexual preferences, that's a big problem in a marriage, obviously. But most importantly, I agree with what every else here has said, you need to protect yourself and go get some good advice from experts, legal and mental health.

The fact that he left sex tapes around for a SECOND time for your child to find also sends alarms bells off in me. I'd give that some thought and attention, a gut check.