i have been mulling this over and over in my mind. i trust you all to give me guidance of how i can best overcome what has happened. in 1989 my sister stole a lot of money from me. no need to get into that part now. the issue is what has happened since that time. when she took the money i could not believe that she could do such a horrible thing to me since i had left my abusive husband without a divorce settlement to just get rid of him. these monies were from my inheritance when my father died. she knew i planned to use the money to start over. she and her husband spent all of it and then declared bankruptcy. over the years i had asked them to make restitutiion...he was an architect and my sister had a professional job. they were making a lot of income at the time. they never did and then her husband died. i requested she write me a promissory note. she did. i continued to try to salvage the sisterhood because in spite of what my sister did i still loved her. i don't like what she did to me however at all.
recently i spoke with her and asked her to plan to pay me back (again). she said i have left you the money in my will. (i am the oldest sister!!!) i told her if i outlived her was not when i needed the money but now. i am on disability and these monies would be worth quuite a consdierable sum had i had it to invest. i am now 61. so when she got her end of the year bonus...$4,000, i approached her again and asked that she give me a portion to start repaying me. she never responded to this request. recently my son told me she was going to send me a copy of her will stating she was leaving me the money when she died. she also said she did not want to ever talk with me again.
i did not do anything wrong. i know that. so now she decides this is my punishment for asking for what belongs to me??? i can't tell you how much this hurts. it's almost like when it happened so long ago. there's much more to this story but i'm trying to be as brief as i can to get feedback. what would you do if this happened to you? how can u just shut off the love you have for a sister? my heart is pounding as i write this...this is how much this has affected me.
thank you for reading and i trust you all will help me put this in it's proper perspective so i can move past this. i am so heartbroken.