Thanks lynn,

I never even thought about my older brother in regards the uncle who abused me. I did wonder about a younger brother and asked him. He said no.

However a couple years ago I did tell my older brother about what happened with my uncle - in another of my misguided attempts to "heal" a relationship by taking on the other person's problem instead of just focusing on me. He never indicated that my uncle abused him in any way, but I suppose that could be possible. Does not excuse what he did, just like the fact that he grew up in the same hell I did, does not excuse him.

I think my biggest problem right now and all along might be that I have always tried to "fix" my relationships by not only taking care of my "part" in a relationship but the other persons too. I try to make it "easy" on others. I tell myself I haven't loved enough, been understanding enough, been enlightened enough, etc. etc.

While I have had some counseling off and on over the years, I have never tried a support group for this. I thought this would be a safe place to start. I might then even graduate to going to a local f2f support group for childhood sexual abuse survivors. Thanks again for your input.