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Old Mar 02, 2009, 12:28 PM
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Sometimes it feels like no one understands, and then it feels like everyone understands. It is so difficult to learn to trust anyone, because we were taught never, EVER, share ANYTHING or something bad will happen. I have to say I have seen both sides of that statement. Sometimes I get into trouble after I have disclosed something of myself to someone else, and then at other times, it seems the exact opposite has happened. So if I don't talk a lot, it's not you guys, it's me. Talking about my alters is very distressing to me, because for so long I didn't know that anything happened to me. I just thought having huge lapses in time was normal. I am finding out it is not the "norm" to not know what happened. Sure, I am not talking about just losing a little time here and there. That is something I find we all do by daydreaming, or thinking of other things when we are driving. Those are "normal". But I am talking of HUGE holes in my childhood, as well as my adult life, that I have no explanation for. I cannot remember, cannot understand what it is that is wrong, or what transpired during those times. It freaks me out when I start obsessing about things, because I'm trying to make a book for Myriam of my life, and I can't remember. I can't remember who I was, what I did, or when I did things. So I am having a bit of difficulty in accepting that these things happened. I don't think that my DID is totally understood by me, but I am realizing that something wrong did happen. I just am a bit squeamish about finding out the what's and the wherefore's. So if I freak out, leave, and we come back as someone else, know that it was getting too much for me. Thank you all for understanding.

Yahna, the main Jewel
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Yahna we do understand the large gaps in time where we cant account for who we were, whwere or who we lived with or anything that we did ( like we have periods of 2 year or worse gaps where we are clueless.) we have ben in thereapy for 5 years now, only the last 2 of which were whne we was diagnosed with DID. we also fight the diagnosis, but at the same time realize that something definitely is not right. Even though the dx explains a lot of stuff that otherwise does not make sense, it is still frustrating to accept and try to learn with. We too are also scared of remembering what we cannot remember. Like we remember some stuff from when we were young that def. was not good/...........why do we want to remember the stuff we cant remember.wont it be worse? dont wanna go there. But T say we has to in order to integrate us not into one person but to where we can get along with each other an know what each other is doing. Anyway, we is just try to tell you that you def. is not alone on this journey into healing. Bead walk with you in your heart anytime you need us too....an it helps to know that someone else is experienceing the same thing we is too. Please be gentle with yourself. Maybe you can find something that you like to do to take your mind off of stuff. Hope we help in some way.....sending warm fuzzies an peaceful thoughts your way........hope to talk soon..

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Thanks for this!
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