I know ALL the "right" answers. I think. But I can't do it.
i have a friend who says she is my best friend. wants honesty and says she cares.
she was coming to visit from another state. she has an immune system disease that makes her susepible to colds, flu--bad germs. she is also DID with issues i don't have. she went thru a very bad time last yr--this time--and i was in a bad way after helping her. she is now helping someone who is going thru similar and i having a rough time--she won't admit it but it comes thru conversation.

i and my H are fighting colds. house is full of germs. high flu and colds in this area.
i gave her a heads up about it.
she said that if i was so concerned that i make the decision about her coming and she would be fine with whatever i decided.
thought about it. talked to H. talked to T. decided that it's not a good time with the colds and with her being so involved with other person (i left that out).
she freaked
she threw every guilt trip she could
how her insiders that are friends with my insiders are devistated
how we had planned this trip for so long
i stuck to my decision.
she kept the guilt up---and now wants total honesty
she says she thinks it is really about other person.
CAN'T be honest--
there is lots more.
too long
she has me trapped
whatever i do i am wrong
if i try to get away i trigger her into some really awful stuff.
i see what i need to to.
i can't do it