Hi Sher,

Sounds like Your boyfriend has some kind of problem. Whether it be an addiction, boredom, immaturity or whatever... I don't know, but you have to realise that it is HIS PROBLEM.

You can try to kindly and lovingly (maybe check out some books on communication & relationships) let him know how his actions make you feel. Then you can decide what YOU are going do to if he does not change. That's about all you can do. Trying to control him in any way won't really work and will make both of you even more unhappy.

Sometimes the more we try to hang on to someone, the more smothered or controlled they feel. And the more out of control and unhappy we feel. Only setting them free by focusing on ourselves and "our own" problems and unhappieness has the possibility of bringing change in a relationship. But you need to truly be ready to let go of the relationship for your own good. Sometimes letting go snaps the other person back into reality, or makes them aware of what they have to lose. Sometimes they don't change or see things any differently at all.

You need to true to yourself and your needs. Maybe as you take care of yourself you will find, as another person mentioned here, that his actions no longer bother because you are busy and happy with your own "things." Maybe as you become more involved in things that make you happy and content, you will find you don't really want to be with someone like him anyway. Take care of yourself and all your relationships will fall into place eventually.