Griffe,

Nice to meet you.

Congratulations on your engagement.

It isn't easy dealing with alters at the best of times but trying to get other people to understand is even more of a problem. I find it best to 'act' as one person where other people are concerned, and I choose to keep my 'creative extra mental activity' to myself. Some may view this as the cowards way out but I think we should each do what works for us.

It took me years to get a proper understanding of this stuff. It's something we must work at if we want answers. We are very fortunate today because of the net and all the information out there. What I found helpful was reading about how other people dealt with things.

Improvement and progress no matter how small is always a good thing. I don't think it's a good thing to push things faster than they are meant to go, we might just have to deal with it again. Allow your healing to unfold at it's own pace and in the meantime take care of yourself and look to the future.

As for change. Telling ourselves that change is always for the better helps us to accept it.

Making a list of your progress and not your failings helps too. Avoid making lists of the negative stuff, I believe this just re-enforces it.

Not thinking about the negative stuff is not denying it, it is still working itself out in your subconscious mind. Sometimes we can hinder this process by dwelling on the negative too much.

Negative things are not back they simply remind us of what we are dealing with and why we are doing the things we do in order to heal.

Writing things down for your T might help.

Stay strong and stay above the battles.