hi patty
thank you for your loving response as so many others have done too. it's a long story how my sister got hold of the money..basically it was this, she knew i was leaving my abusive husband, she said u have never asked help from the family, let us help you now and u move down here near us. i was so vulnerable at the time and had lost all sense of self and trust in other human beings (ex) that i believed her since she was my sister. what i did not know at the time was that she and her husband were on the brink of financial disaster (again). she told me to expedite my monies being available (she was in banking) to wire them the money to their account in florida so when i arrived we could go to the bank and open me an account. i was such an emotional wreck, i did just that, only keeping 9,000 for the costs of my moving from up north, etc. about two weeks after i arrived at their house i said we need to go over to the bank and transfer my funds. she drove me all the way there and then said, there's something i have to tell you. i said, ok. she said, there is no money left. i said what??? she said, we spent it. i felt literally like someone had hit with with a board. they had spent all my money in the short time before i got there. she said she was sorry. her husband didn't even say that. i said well let's work out a way for you all to pay me back. she said, we can't. end of story.
we got home i got in my car and went to a friend's. my friends from pa. called me later at my firends' house suspecting something was very wrong. they said we don't know what's happened but we feel we need to come down there and bring you back to our home. i burst out crying at that point and told them what happened. (my gf's husband had gone with me to the bank when i wired the money and knew the circumstances.) he was down the next day from pa. to load up my belongings and took me back to their home. i lived there for 1 year, paid them rent, etc , got a job, got on my feet and finally got an apt. at that time i returned to my career and stayed up north for 25 years. i've had some incredibly loving friends in my life. i am surely blessed for each of them.
so that's how the monies got into her hands. it was a deceitful ploy and it worked out. i fell for it. to this day i am amazed how anyone can do such a thing to another human being. i think she thought i'd cave in and let them get away with it. for years i gave her opportunities to make this right.
this recent attempt with her again has sent me over the top when my son said she was breaking all ties with me...all for asking her to repay me my monies. (he was aware and supported my decision to ask her again for restitution) she didn't have the nerve to call me...she called my son. that is disgusting to me for her to put him in that spot.
so that's the long version, patty. thank you gain for your kind and caring support. here this is an online community and i've met such wonderful caring ppl here. i'm begininng to think again that i should just stick with my friends for the most part. like they say, you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family.
yes i''m about 90% sure i will seek an attorney for advice. yes, again, being disabled and living on a fixed income has been a burden that i have accepted. but this sitatuion needs to be addressed i believe.
thank you again, patty.