I might have felt like T was 'taking sides' when refering to the movie..

I love how T's comments can be so gentle, sometimes tension-releiving.

I wonder if you wish your birth mother had the same notion of strength that you do, that would have possibly given her the courage to stay and walk through her troubles.

Some people live their whole lives unable to do that or even consider it. We are the fortunate ones who find it in ourselves somehow to attempt that and live in a time where we have support and T so we don't have to be totally alone in the process. This gives us many more options than others had at other times.