Diane, hello and welcome!

It's definitely a hard time you are going through right now. I'm glad you found our community, and I hope you do keep posting.

My daughter is also a survivor of domestic violence. Her ex became addicted to meth, also. She sees a very good therapist through the local mental health clinic.
The courts here have advocates for the survivors and can provide guidance to agencies that can help...United Way is an important resource.
It would be great if you could find a support group. They are free and have so much information that can help you.

My heart goes out to you for so many things!
It does sound like your sons would benefit from therapy, also.

Jmo, but sometimes we can be so overwhelmed that we cannot see ways to help ourselves. Is there a good friend who you trust to help you? Perhaps a paster/clergy?

Please keep posting and let us know how you and your children are doing...
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