Yes, I do believe it's too easy. There is such a thing as irreconcilable differences...all you have to say is, I don't agree with you on the fact that the toilet seat should be up, and that is grounds for divorce. THIS is what I am talking about, and in my last post I thought I made that clear. If you had read my post, I too was in a long relationship/marriage where the divorce sucked, I HAVE been there, it wasn't easy, by far. I didn't want it...but it was all too easy for my X to just go to the courts and divorce me, and there's nothing you can do about it. If one party wants out, eventually the court will let it happen.

I do UNDERSTAND that NOT ALL marriages, and I stated this, will work out. The FACT remains though, that people take marriage and divorce too lightly. You're no longer just B/F -G/F, when you get married you're supposed to be doing it for life. My wife has major problems too, yet I am standing by her because I love her and I believe we will be, and are, ok. My situation is diff from a lot of you who do have "unfixable" marriages. For those of you going through things where you know it won't work and you have tried everything, I am very sorry for you and feel for you, honestly! Yet, like I said, unless you have exauhsted all avenues, don't just give up, if you have, than yes, there is no point anymore is there? I never disagreed with that.

And no one here is a mind reader...you have heard one side of someone's story...albeit I don't discount anything! I am in no way saying anything she has said isn't true, but we don't know him, so how do you know if he will change or not? He needs help, if he loves her and is willing to go through therapy and work things out...good, if not that is sad , and again, I agree, there's not much else left to do.

GL UH, and God bless, I hope things work out for you!