No, I wasn't adopted, yet my parents were very detached, no one ever said I love you, I'm proud of you, good job, etc., at 14 my mom left and married some other guy, I wanted to go with her but I ended up with my dad.

I will say many, if not most, adopted children will have a bit of an identiy problem, even if they loved thier adoptive parents and were treated great and part of the family etc.

It seems to me you have more problems than anyone here can handle, none of us are truly professionals, we help out with what we can from experience and learning from others and our therapists. You need to find a therapist and get working on you. You are an unique, wonderful human being...reading your first post it says you are growing up a mess...are you still at home? Are your parents aware of how you feel (even if you're not at home anymore)? Get some help, and let us know how it's going! We do care!

Good luck and God bless!