If you cave in with your T what does that look like?

I am sorry that a lot of people pressure you . That must be really hard. Maybe some boundaries will help with this? I had to work on boundaries.

People frequently do get "worse" before they get better in therapy. The same problems are there but before therapy coping occurred to keep lids on the problems. To fix the problems the lids need to be opened.

Why don't you want to tell your H anything?