She has an immune disease that makes her susceptible to colds?

White Iris, you are actually saving her life by not seeing her at this time when you and your husband are sick. Now that's a real friend!

Because of her condition, if she gets near to you, she may actually die sooner.

You are being very thoughtful. You and your Husband are sick but she is VERY sick. The kind of sick you can die from.

Sometimes when people are VERY sick, like your friend, they don't think rationally, at times, because of the sickness. Little parts/kids don't want to stay home because of sickness, they want what they want when they want it and it sounds to me like her child parts don't like hearing this. (how I know this b/c I HATE having to stay home when sick, too many times looking out windows, while other children played).

AND, one more thing, perhaps the other person you referred to as being terminal, is too feisty to die.

Sitting with you White Iris (but not too close, achoo)

Melting Ice