Patchy, Yes I agree, its in finally "getting enought" care from T that is enabling to let go the hurt...

Em, Thats interesting that you say this conversation is scarying you and I fully understand that also...But I can say, this "new" feeling, way of seeing things, does me the world of good, **** knows what it does for my mothers, but thats not the point , but I do get you, and would not suggest forgiveness to anyone else, because its a personal thing and something we do in our own time in our own way...its nothing to wear like a badge of honour, but to help us live the best life we can...