This is what I have found..

You are right, you forgive for YOU because it eats at YOU if you do not..

It is as if your family the ones closest to you the ones who have hurt you, it is as if they owe you a debt for what they have done to you, to your life...then in order to forgive (not reconcile! just forgive..) you stamp with a rubber stamp debt forgiven!! On the debt they owe to you...then you pray for them, you take them off your 'string' and tie them instead to God's string, for God will punish in His own way and time..

You do not make their problem, your problem..

You may have to keep a healthy distance from the ones who hurt you, enjoy their 'other' qualities, while maintaining a certain emotional distance.....

But forgiving is about YOU not them do if for YOU it may not be bothering them do not let this eat away at _you....