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imapatient · Mar 04, 2009, 10:25 PM

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Originally Posted by sunrise

I wouldn't like this because it sounds like he is trying to tell you your feelings are not justified because you are thinking about things "wrong". He's seeming to suggest that you made an incorrect assumption that it should not hurt, therefore you feelings are invalid.

I see it as an attempt to validate your feelings--he's saying it's normal/expected to have them given the circumstances. He did it indirectly, but he did it.

I think he stood back and let you express yourself thinking that that's what you wanted most--someone to hear you and your pain.

Calling a T who you work really well with and have contact with outside of session frequently, and made the call according to the boundaries established, isn't stupid. It's common and normal for your relationship. It was about your main issue these days. It's understandable. Just because you didn't get what you wanted out of the call doesn't make it stupid, it just means that for whatever reason of his issues at the moment, his therapeutic decision, what he picked up from you, and what you said he didn't play his role the way you hoped he would.

I hope he can steer you to some support groups for others experiencing similar grief; not many people go through that type of grief at any given point in time, and a T can only do so much.