it sounds to me as if your t is not the best fit for you. i'd look for another one. i also like that link that echoes posted about therapy but if i remember correctly it mostly takes a psychodynamic approach. i'm an ex 12-stepper (adult children of alcoholics although i wasn't from an alcoholic family) and i found it incredibly helpful after trying just about everything else and none of those other things worked for me. but if it doesn't appeal to you then don't sweat it. people are different and need different types of help. i hope you do find something that does help.