I wouldn't like this because it sounds like he is trying to tell you your feelings are not justified because you are thinking about things "wrong". He's seeming to suggest that you made an incorrect assumption that it should not hurt, therefore you feelings are invalid. If you only understood you should not be expecting things to not hurt right now, then he would have "fixed" your problem. I don't buy into that kind of therapy--all that faulty thinking c**p. You were trying to share your feelings of grief with a trusted therapist and instead you got "you're thinking about this all wrong." I think he did not understand what you needed and yeah, that stuff happens. I'm sorry it did when you needed something else.

One of the stages of grief is anger, so maybe this shows you are progressing rather than at the same stage for 6 months?

I hope your in person session goes well. I think phone calls are really really hard. So difficult to communicate over the wires and lots of potential for miscommunication.