It sounds like the pdoc was clumsily trying to help. The important thing is that you didn't feel heard or like you understood her reasoning, which is a good reason to try a second pdoc to find a better fit.

My first pdoc was not very helpful to me and not very attentive to what was really going on. It took me a long time to get up the nerve for a second opinion, but I'm glad I got one, because now I feel like the combination of meds and T is really serving me well.

Remember, you have the right to be dissatisfied and to seek an opinion from another doctor.