I told my husband that I want a divorce. Long story short, we don't get along, we don't have much in common, we are in very different places in our life, we each have way different maturity levels...On top of that, he has OCD, is very controlling, inappropriate/rude/disgusting and has absolutely no respect for me.

We've been married for 14 years, together for about 15, and I am done. I want to look ahead with a shimmer of hope and happiness instead of just plugging along trying to keep sane among all the misery.

We had a loooooong talk, and he suggested a trial separation for 6 months. He'd get an apartment and work on his issues and then "come back". I told him that just "coming back" wasn't going to work. I'm not saying we won't give it a shot - if that's what we both want to do at that time. He did not like hearing that. But I was glad that he was agreeable to getting a place.

Then.....he had time to think......

The next conversation we had, he wrote a list of all the promises he's making to me, the changes he will make....he said he will see a psychologist......I told him that it is great that he wants to make changes to better his life, but that I really think he needs to also concentrate on finding that apartment or whatnot.

He was so disappointed to hear that. He said that he is committing to these things with the plan of continuing to stay in the home and save our marriage. I told him that that's not what I want.

You see, even if he made all the changes he's promising to me (which seem impossible if you ask me - you don't just "change"), I still don't see our relationship working. There are so many reasons why. And I am just tired of wasting my life with him.

Then....last night......

He is acting all nicey-nicey.....And then says, "I am respecting you. See? And I am smiling, so you will be happy!".....

He doesn't realize that it takes a whole lot more than that....and that I have hit rock bottom in our relationship. When I see him or think of him, I feel disgusted....sometimes sad.

He tried touching me this morning, and I pushed him away. Don't touch me! I went into the other room. I also told him that he is not respecting me and my wishes.

How do I get him to leave?

I don't want to be the one to leave, because I want to keep the house. Our daughter loves it here, and it's where I want her to continue to grow up. Financially, I can make it work. It won't be easy, but I know I can do it. He, on the other hand, would never be able to afford it. His income would just cover the mortgage/taxes each month.

What can I do?