I understand exactly how you feel. I could easily stir up those same feelings in that situation. And my wife does not show much emotion that would potray any kind of weakness. And crying would be one she feels that way about. Her reactions are usually loud, sarcastic, rude, and is not open to many ideas or explanations that she has not thought of herself.

Mine, as well, does not understand or seem to be willing to work with me to overcome my insecurities. She says she has tried for many years and it has not worked. It has worked, just not to the level or result that she would have hoped for.

I myself am looking for ways to deal with my insecurities. Maybe someone can give us some more tools to try to overcome these problems.