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Originally Posted by Sannah
Ihateit, is the root of this insecurity the fact that your mom left you? Sometimes if you just go to the source it is the easiest way to nip these things in the bud. I agree with Madisgram, you are making progress. You noticed you were being triggered and you were trying to be calm. This is progress. The whole thing ended well too. This is good. So maybe your wife's therapy is working and this is why she is showing emotions? Also, you are working with her and this is probably helping her to move forward?
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Heh, you caught me while I replying to the others...she is one major reason yes, my mum, and one failed relationship at a young age, and my 2nd wife just up and divorcing me...mum prolly had the greatest effect on me, and my T and I are working on that.
My mum won't talk about it, so I have to resolve it my way, in my time, and really, with the help of my T, it's getting easier to understand and deal with it.
I hope that's true...you're right tho, I do notice my triggers, I just need to stop the reaction to them from being bad, to knowing that I know the truth and to either not react or hold back from reacting off the cuff. As she's on her period, hormomes as Locust mentioned could be part of her reaction, but we have had our problems before while she's on...you might have hit on something there...because her crying is like monkeys flying lol...thank you too Sannah, you know I always appreciate your help and adivce too!
