Tough situtation. Especially as you seem to be saying that you KNOW this relationship can not work for YOU. I would try to find a lawyer and seek advice, but I would suggest a lawyer who does "divorce mediation." It could save you from much anger, money and time. I would also suggest reading the book 'How To Heal Painful Relationships And If Necessary, Part As Friends' by Bill Ferguson.

Perhaps I'm reading this wrong but it sounds like your situation could quickly escalate into a very bitter divorce battle. The one that would be hurt the most if that happens, down the long road, is your daughter. So work to part as cordially as possible with him for her sake.

I wish I had the benefit of this advice and the above book when I was divorcing my daughter's father. Our divorce turned out long and bitter. That was truly never my intention. I'm not sure that it could have been any other way given the type of person he is, but I would have liked to have this knowledge at hand, possessed these skills, and to have given it a try for my daughter's sake. Our bitterness and inability to get along really hurt her and often made her feel as if she had to choose between us.