I am being accused of emotionally abusing my wife, and i am soul searching to see if there is any validity to the claim. Out relationship has been uneasy for a while. I will admit, that when we argue, or fight, thuings are said that are mean, names are called, but we are both guilty of that. My understanding of emotional abuse is consistent belittleing, or humiliating. Or controling, or yelling for no logical reason...and I do not do those things.
Sometimes, when we are argueing, and I am calm, and I say something she does not like, she says I am yelling at her, or putting her dowm, when all i am trying to do is convey my feelings. I know criticism is not easy to hear, but she seems to take them so personally...
We arer now at the point of discussing divorce, and there are kids involved.....
I have been going to counseling for 3 weeks trying to figure out if I am doing something wrong, or what I can do to improve things...she knows this, and is fine with is, but has no desire to join me in the counseling, or get any on her own...i gave her the list of Docs approved thru the insurannce......and she has done nothing....
i am at my wits end.......any advice?