hi all you good ppl. i cannot thank you all in person for the supportive posts and input. it's helped me come to a decision. i will seek counsel on this and if i have a case, i will seek restitution thru the legal system. i'm in a 12 step program of recovery that helps too. i will accept what the legal system decides. will close the book on this chapter in my life after that. sadly "lost" a sister but sadly she made that decision so i really have not lost her. she lost herself and me. i'm not mad anymore. still hurt about what's happened but with all your love and support i am more at peace. no longer the gnawing anxiety of should i, shouldn't i? will move on after this and find that serene place that i know is waiting for me. i really don't know if i could have come to a conclusion as easy without all of your input and caring.
i will keep u posted as this develops cause i believe you have a vested interest in the outcome. i know i do...oh i am being silly now...
many many thanks again for your just being the wonderful frends i have found here at pc.
jan