I'd say definitely find a new T. For starters if your issues aren't with your husband / marriage, why are you seeing a family, marriage therapist?

As for wanting CBT and getting 12 steps pushed on you, that in my opinion is simply professional incompetence, they are two completely different things. Personally I'm a member of AA, and kind of like the 12 steps, but I do have a life outside of AA. The treatment centre I went to was not 12 step based, but rather used a variety of approaches including CBT. I personally found it very helpful, and have since used CBT principles in other areas of my life.

A book that is good on CBT is Mind over Mood. Sorry I can't remember the author, but I got the book off of Amazon. It's a combo text workbook that uses and explains different CBT techniques to look at different emotional problems. It's a standard workbook in a lot of the hospital based CBT groups up here in Toronto.

Good luck finding a therapist who is a better fit.

--splitimage