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Old Mar 05, 2009, 08:14 PM
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Originally Posted by phoenix7 View Post
this may sound a bit weird - but if anyone has any ideas I would
be grateful - my sister was in a verbally abusive relationship - she left him about 6 months ago after about 25 years - they used to drink a lot - he slowed down but she still drank - "to cope with him"

I understand that - she still has a few drinks in the evening now she has left him - when she drinks she repeats herself a lot and it gets so anything i say can be taken the wrong way -

when they used to drink when I was there - they would always get into a screaming match - and I would try to keep the kids out of it - but they have ears! - this used to trigger me to my childhood - I cant stand shouting - and now when she rings and has been drinking I am always waiting for her to take somthing I have said the wrong way - when she's not drinking we get on really well - I've tried mentioning it to her but as her husband used to say she drank too much she thinks im on his side - which im not - it gets so I dread the phone ringing.... any ideas?

I haven't talked to my sister for about 2 years because of her drinking. When your sister is sober tell her not to call you when she has been drinking. If she ignores your boundaries cut her off.
Thanks for this!
Capp, phoenix7