My boyfriend is the same. I met him online through a game, I'm not a heavy gamer I just enjoy time on the internet, I started playing the game because my ex played it. That and among all the other things that bother me are tearing us apart. I moved from Southern California to Northern Kentucky and the gaming has gone down (I let him enjoy his gaming time though it does get to the point where I want to pull hairs) but things are just horrible... I assumed that it was because of all the fighting we did about the gaming when I was still back home as well as my insecurities, but things are just bitter. If you love him and you really can't see yourself away from him, keep fighting for him, maybe get a hobby and abuse it, you know be away from him to get him to want you more... let him miss you like you miss him. If that doesn't work figure out something else... I mean if you really do see the things you once loved about him, then don't let anyone tell you how you feel because they are just spectators. Follow your heart, fight for your man. But if you truly lost that spark and you're just banging your head up against a brick wall then maybe it's time to balance out what's good for you. I mean people can tell you what you could or couldn't do, only you can decide to do them...
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Originally Posted by Sher8907
It seems that my boyfriend would rather play on his online game Runescape than spend time with me.....we live together, and even though I see him, it's like we never spend any time together...Even when he decides to come lay down with me on the couch to watch t.v., he has to get up and check the game every 10-15 minutes, and if someone messages him or something, it's way more important...after we make love, there's never any cuddling afterwards, he always gets up, and checks the game && the forums.
I ask him if he could lay with me and spend time with me, but he says "No. I can't." and he gets so mad when I get sad about it. I don't know what to do.
I've tried talking to him about it but he always gets mad at me.  He says its the only thing to do, which hurts, because I'm here, you know, and it's like hes saying I'm not worth spending time with.
I just want to cry because for the past 4 months I've felt like I'm competing with a virtual game for my boyfriend. IT's caused alot of stress, and the stress and neglect us just becoming way too much for me.
I love my boyfriend a lot, but I don't know how to get him to understand how lonely and neglected I feel....and advice/suggestions?
Thanks..
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