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Dear Poohbear,
I know it is difficult to try to comfort someone who lives in a vast amount of fear. I also know that no matter what you may do, sometimes the most just isn't enough to get through. As you get into therapy more deeply, and discover why she is so afraid, you can begin to work with her, with your Ts, to help her see that there is nothing she has to be afraid of now. When you deal with her, try to reassure her that there is nothing that will hurt her ever again, and that she doesn't need to be afraid. Keep reminding her that she is safe, and let her hear it over and over and over again. It may seem simple to get through to her, but there are layers that keep her fearful when there is nothing to be fearful about. It WILL get better, I promise. Yahna is much less fearful today because she is willing to hear what the fear is all about, but it took her years to get it through her head. Of course, it didn't help that she has been through a huge loss when her T left for other directions in her life. But what I am trying to say is this: let yourself feel the fear, and realize that it isn't going to hurt you. Stay strong with going to your Ts every time you are scheduled, and keep bringing up things that happen to you during your T time. As I see you unfold, I think you have come a great way already, and know that you WILL come out stronger, healthier, and freer than you think you can be.
Crys of Jewels
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True love exists when we lose ourselves to invest in the care of others.
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