Is this just another way of him disrespecting me? Or does he really, truly not understand?

Here's a recap of our texts for today:

Husband: Are you going out to lunch with coworkers or going home?

Me: Why?

(I end up going home - and he's there. He saw me arrive home, but then did not cross paths the entire time. As he was leaving.....)

Husband: I hope you have a good lunch. I was just asking a simple question and I can't eat meat.

Husband: Gotta go back to the building and I sure do miss the way you used to treat me like at (old job - meaning long time ago).

Me: Things are different now. I miss those days too...but it's not reality.

(an hour passes)

Husband: I know we can have a nice weekend as a family, and we should visit my dad for his b-day and go out with (daughter) somewhere nice.

Me: I don't want to give you false hope and also do not want to have to fake happiness. Maybe you and (daughter) can go?

Husband: We can begin tonight spending time out with (daughter) being civil, respectful and caring.

Me: You don't seem to understand that right now we need to give each other time and space to work on our issues and figure things out.